Lesson 3: Try to spot anti-seductive behaviors in others and yourself and get rid of them.
First impressions aren’t always accurate, but that doesn’t mean people will give you a second chance to rectify them. And some behaviors are just wholly unattractive. Here are nine of them:
- Brutes forget that romance is play. They skip the best part and thus come off as blunt.
- Suffocators drown you in affection before they even know you. Ugh.
- Moralizers can’t take a joke because all they want is for you to be like them.
- Tightwads are cheap. But seduction is about abundance, about giving.
- Bumblers are so insecure, they have to drag everyone around them down to their level.
- Windbags don’t pay attention to a single word you say because they’re busy thinking about their own next sentence.
- Reactors are whiny. They kill the mood by complaining all the time.
- Vulgarians write off attraction as humbug. That’s a buzzkill.
- Greedy pigs tend to want too much from anyone, which is exhausting.
While it’s easy to spot these tendencies in others, it’s harder to see them in ourselves. If you ever do, squash them!
The Art Of Seduction Review
When I look at books like The Art Of Seduction now, I don’t see a manual for manipulating people, written by an evil schemer. I see an interesting study of human behavior, a wealth of information that’s only as good or bad as the person who wields it. In this case, it’s a plethora of archetypes, patterns you can recognize in yourself, other people, and everyday life.
If you use them, use them well and for good causes, there is nothing wrong with The Art Of Seduction.