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1. Be better than your public persona After reading Robert’s powerful books, many of his readers expect him to be an evil mastermind. Although he’s certainly a master at what he does, he always surprises the people he meets with his approachable, open-minded persona. You should always strive to be a better person than what people expect. Corresponding chapter to read: See Through People’s Masks 2. Fight aimlessness with rigorous exercise
Read more at: https://www.blinkist.com/magazine/posts/10-lessons-human-nature-learned-robert-greene?utm_source=cpp
Lesson 3: Try to spot anti-seductive behaviors in others and yourself and get rid of them.
First impressions aren’t always accurate, but that doesn’t mean people will give you a second chance to rectify them. And some behaviors are just wholly unattractive. Here are nine of them:
- Brutes forget that romance is play. They skip the best part and thus come off as blunt.
- Suffocators drown you in affection before they even know you. Ugh.
- Moralizers can’t take a joke because all they want is for you to be like them.
- Tightwads are cheap. But seduction is about abundance, about giving.
- Bumblers are so insecure, they have to drag everyone around them down to their level.
- Windbags don’t pay attention to a single word you say because they’re busy thinking about their own next sentence.
- Reactors are whiny. They kill the mood by complaining all the time.
- Vulgarians write off attraction as humbug. That’s a buzzkill.
- Greedy pigs tend to want too much from anyone, which is exhausting.
While it’s easy to spot these tendencies in others, it’s harder to see them in ourselves. If you ever do, squash them!
The Art Of Seduction Review
When I look at books like The Art Of Seduction now, I don’t see a manual for manipulating people, written by an evil schemer. I see an interesting study of human behavior, a wealth of information that’s only as good or bad as the person who wields it. In this case, it’s a plethora of archetypes, patterns you can recognize in yourself, other people, and everyday life.
If you use them, use them well and for good causes, there is nothing wrong with The Art Of Seduction.
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Lesson 2: There are nine types of seducers and they all have different dominant strategies.
While always being good for a surprise is a necessary condition for all successful seductions, people tend to still choose certain strategies over others. We don’t just like finding patterns, we embody them. Greene says there are nine types of seducers:
- The Siren. As a woman, you can portray the ultimate fantasy for a man: an uninhibited, promiscuous, pure symbol of pleasure.
- The Rake. As a man, you can speak to the universal female need for desire, attention, and appreciation by showing her you’d do anything for her.
- The Ideal Lover. We all have broken dreams. The ideal lover represents the fantasy of those dreams without the disappointment we’re used to from reality, life, and other people.
- The Dandy. Most of us are trapped in societal roles. The dandy refuses to play them. By defying all expectations and curating his or her own self-image, the dandy shows us what it means to be free.
- The Natural. Our ideals are our childhood selves. Naturals remind us of who we once were – an honest, spontaneous, playful human being – and that’s why they’re attractive.
- The Coquette. Coquettes are masters of the bait-and-switch. They raise our hopes, then shoot us down, again and again. Sadly, that only makes them more desirable.
- The Charmer. We all like to feel comfortable. In a charmer’s presence, we always are. They lift us up by highlighting our best traits, rather than focusing on presenting themselves.